Thursday, April 23, 2015

T is for Trust

 
 
Trust: the belief that someone or something is reliable, good, honest, effective, etc.
 

Trust is an integral part of any relationship but the amount of trust needed behind TTWD is way beyond basis trust.


TTWD makes us vulnerable.


TTWD can be rapidly destroyed by a single breach of trust.

 
 
One may try to forgive and move forward but once broken it can never be the same again.
 
 
 
 
In TTWD we share our soles, we reveal our deepest secrets, share our wants and needs, bare our bodies, submit to our Dom's, trust them to spank us, restrain us make us completely at their mercy. I do believe TTWD is one of the biggest displays of trusts there is.  
 
 




 

Wednesday, April 22, 2015

S is for snippet

 

 
Please enjoy a snippet of a role affirmation scene from one of my works in progress:)
 
 
“Savannah,” I said snuggling into her. “You’re not yourself. I know something isn’t right. You’ve been kind of down like this once in a while lately and I want you to tell me why. What’s going on?”
“I really don’t want to talk about it, she said. “I told you I’m tired. I just want to get some sleep.”
“Hmm is that an attitude I’m hearing,” I questioned her.
“No Sir.”
I placed my hand on her back and gently rubbed her back and bottom. “I can’t let this sullen mood continue my luv. I am going to insist you tell me what is going on. Now, turn around and face me and tell me what’s going on.
She obeyed and turned towards  me. She had tears running down her face. I gently attempted to dry them with my thumb and pulled her into a tight embrace. “Aww Savannah,” I whispered. “It kills me to see you so sad. Come on, talk to me tell me what’s the matter .”
She looked at me with pleading eyes. I knew she really didn’t want to talk.
“Do I need to spank you to get you to talk to me,” I questioned her.
“No Hilton please don’t,” she answered quickly. “That’s the thing. I’m not sure I want to do this anymore.”
What? I thought to myself. That was the last thing I was expecting her to say. I was dumbfounded. Why would she say that? Things had getting been so much better since DD became a part of our lives.  
“Why,” I questioned her confused.
“It’s just… I shouldn’t need this. I shouldn’t need spankings or corner time or any punishments at all for that matter. I’m a grown adult for goodness sake,” she responded starting to sob.
“That’s non sense,” I growled.  “I cannot even believe that we are having this conversation again! We both know how much better things have been for our entire household with DD. Who cares what you  should need. This is what we do. It works. End of story. There are a lot of out couples out there who do this very same thing. We aren’t even going to the I shouldn’t need this place. Now, I want you to turn over flat on your belly right this instant. A good spanking will calm you right down.”
“Please don’t make me…”
“One,” I counted. “Two, three..”
“Ok ok, I’m turning over,” she pouted.
She knew if I got to five it would earn her an additional set of spanks with an unwelcomed implement of my choice. Stalling had become a bad habit of hers and the countdown method is how I fixed it. She stalled, I started counting. If I got to five she received five additional swats after the conclusion of her regular spanking. After five if she didn’t obey I started back at one. After earning ten or more extra strikes, typically with the tilt wand on an already well spanked bottom, our stalling problem disappeared quickly.
She turned on her belly and I pulled at the top on her panties sliding them down reviling her pale white twin globes. She didn’t resist. She even lifted her hips to assisting me with sliding them down.
I began slapping her butt with moderate spanks as I spoke reassuringly to her. “We are not quitting DD. It is a part of us now. I am your leader. You will obey me. When you slip up your bottom will be thoroughly spanked. Is that understood Savannah?”
“Yes Sir,” she whined.
I spanked her sit spots repeatedly until her bottom was a nice pink and it starting stinging enough that she started to squirm.
"That my girl," I said while rubbing her bottom. I slipped my finger in her slit and she was wet. I continued exploring her creases with my fingers while I spoke to her softly. "DD is a part of us now. A secret between you and me. It works for us. That is all that matters," I continued as I slipped a finger inside of her.
Savannah arched her back and moaned while she began moving her bottom up and down while my finger slipped in and out of her.
"Oh no, slow down little one. We aren't done spanking this gorgeous booty yet," I said applying a sharp slap to her right cheek as I moved to the edge of the bed.  "Now climb over here. I want that little butt over my knee."
 
 

Tuesday, April 21, 2015

R is for Role Affirmation

 
Since I ventured into blog land I have run into a lot of talk about Role Affirmation spankings. At first I didn't really see the difference between role affirmation and reminder spankings but I have finally figured it out, at least within Jordan and I's arrangement.
 
Reminder Spankings are good for times when no major spankable offence has been committed but behavior and attitude are beginning to become an issue or as a reminder prior to an event such as being spanked before a shopping trip when overspending has been an issue in the past.
 
 
 
Role Affirmation is different.
 
Role = a part or character played by an actor or actress.
 
Affirmation = confirmation or ratification of the truth or validity of a prior judgment, decision, etc.

Role + Affirmation = Confirmation of the truth or validity of a part played.

Role Affirmation Spanking= a spanking administered along with verbal confirmation of both the HOH's and submissive roles and responsibility's. Useful in situations such as second guessing TTWD, or distancing withdrawal by the submissive partner.



When I ask Jordan for a spanking, role affirmation is typically what I'm asking for. I want him to spank me while affirming verbally that he is the boss and I will obey him and what the consequences will be should I choose not to. I want him to tell me that he loves me, that everything will be ok, that he's got me always no matter what. I want him to calm whatever fear, stress or worry that is causing me to pull away.

I want him to spank moderately hard. Push me a little bit past the ouch this really hurts, squirm try to get away level but not to a hard punishment spanking level and then I want him to make love to me.



When I feel the need for this type of thing I'm overly sensitive, emotional, lost deep within the thoughts in my head. That's when I need to know 'he's got this" the most.


We aren't there yet but I hope we are someday. Jordan has perfected the art of spanking but he typically spanks in silence. I know the reasoning behind each one but I long to hear him say them. Especially during those times when I'm questioning myself and / or my desire for TTWD.


 


What are your thoughts on role affirmation spankings? What do they mean to you?

Monday, April 20, 2015

Q is for Quit

 

 
 

Jordan and I have started and stopped DD a few times during our journey. Sometimes it has just faded away. At least twice I've said, "I quit."
 
 
I read about this kind of thing on blogs all the time unfortunately :(
 
 
For us I believe the on again off again is because Jordan isn't as invested in DD as I am. He likes the results. Wants the submissiveness and obedience but doesn't really buy into the need for discipline or punishments. When times are tough Jordan lets everything slide until I get angry and rebel. Then he reaches his limit and wants to punish and I refuse because we haven't been doing DD and in my mind we aren't doing it anymore.
 
 
Ultimately his HOHiness kicks in. In truth it is what I want and so when he gives it.... its hard to resist. So the punishment happens. Things calm down and are smooth and then he lets things slide...
 
It is a vicious cycle, a bad merry go round that it seems many of us are on.
 
 
But after that last I quit, I vowed I would quit no more.
When it is good, as it is currently is, it is really good and if I said I quit it wouldn't be being truthful with myself or Jordan because when he is ready to step up I ultimately bend over.
 
So, when I write it all down and really think about it... DD is always there, it is now a part of us. The part that varies is how quick Jordan is to respond. When there is a delay I feel the loss and assume DD is over but should I push hard enough I am sure to "feel" that it has just lying dormant.  

Saturday, April 18, 2015

P is for playful


Typically I blog about the negative. Things that end with punishments or spanking. So I decided today I would share the playful side of Jordan and I.

 
Jordan is a teaser :)~
He likes to joke around and laugh a lot.
He always has a witty comeback.
One of the things he does that I really love is change the words to songs we are listening to.
He turns them into lyrics that fit us.
Sometimes he is silly about it but sometimes it can be really romantic<3
 
 
In our free time we like to:
 

Support our very own little ballerina:)
Our daughter is on her 4th year of dance
and this year is doing 5 total acts for her recital!
 
 
Spend time with our little guy on the track.
This is his first year racing:)
 
Or
 
Support our favorite Supercross stars, trackside or on TV
 
 
In the summer we do lots of car shows.
We have and older style and a new Camaro.
 
 
At home we enjoy game nights. We do all kinds of games but Guitar Hero is one of our favorites. I get to feel like a rock star :)~
 
 
 
Tell me something fun about you!
 
 

Friday, April 17, 2015

O is for Obey

 
When Jordan and I got married I customized our entire wedding. I picked out every single reading. When I was searching for wedding vows one of the most important things I was looking for was to make sure it included to love, honor and obey. When I look back to that time I find it odd that including "obey" was so important to me but if I'm honest, truthfully, I knew I wanted a husband who was going to lead and take care of me.

 

 
I didn't have that though. Jordan rarely stood up to me prior to DD. I'd push wanting him to stand strong and he would crumble, go with the flow, do what I wanted. I made the decisions. I controlled our money. I made our plans. Until... we had our children. Then he wasn't as willing to compromise. Even though that's what I thought I wanted when he started resisting my decisions it made me angry. I had grown accustomed to running things. 
 
Relinquishing control wasn't easy once we agreed to DD. It took time and many spankings but I would do it all over again. Honestly I wish we had of started our relationship off that way. Our marriage is so much stronger since we've started living it the way God intended us to.  

I totally agree with Candace...

 
 
If I renewed my wedding vows today, to love, honor and obey would still be an integral part of what I would want to say. Would you vow to OBEY?

Thursday, April 16, 2015

N is for Never

 
Since beginning Domestic Discipline I have discovered some
 
                                                      's
 
Something's that will surely end in a
bad way should I choose to do them.
 
Let's look at the  NEVER top 5
 
1. Never walk away when Jordan is talking to me.
 
 
2. Never respond with "Whatever"
 
 
 
3. Never go to bed angry
 
 
4. Never go out without a charged phone
 
 
5. Never outright refuse to obey a command
 
 
What are your NEVER NEVER  NEVERS ???