So exciting!

 

These past few days have been super exciting.

Lots of stuff has been happening with Savannah's Surrender!

 

Sales have been good,

Authors have been reaching out and offering to host me on their blogs,

and I am basking in release week bliss:)

 

Thank you to all of you who have purchased the book.

If you have read it please consider leaving a review

or contacting me personally to let me know what you thought:) 

 The book is currently available on:



and will be coming soon to:





Happy Memorial Day <3


 

It's Release Day!

 

 

This is a very exciting day in the Rose household. My very first book is live to purchase on Amazon Kindle and will be live on other sites including Blushing Books later this week.

 

 

Savannah's Surrender on Amazon.com

 

Savannah's Surrender is based on a true story. It tells a tale of a married couple, Hilton and Savannah Fields, who are enduring some marital discord.

Hilton walked out on Savannah over six months ago. After numerous attempts to resolve their issues on their own with little progress Hilton decided it was time to call it quits. He was convinced that Savannah was just too stubborn and she was never going to be willing to compromise on anything. It wasn’t what he wanted but he had tried everything to fix things, finally reaching his breaking point he told Savannah he was filing for a divorce.

Savannah was devastated. She wanted her husband back but she wasn't going to let him tell her how or what to do. She talks Hilton into trying Christian marriage counseling as a final attempt to save their crumbling marriage. Savannah’s confident that the pastor will show Hilton the error of his ways.

Hilton and Savannah are both shocked when Pastor James suggests that they adopt a Domestic Discipline lifestyle. He instructs Hilton to become the head of his household and recommends that he starts spanking Savannah’s bottom if she disobeys him or becomes disrespectful. Pastor James ensures the couple that Hilton taking charge of their marriage will quickly put an end to their discord.

Will Hilton spank Savannah? Can Domestic Discipline save their failing marriage?

 

 

 

First and foremost I would like to thank "Jordan", my husband, for supporting me on my writing and publishing journey

 and most of all for giving our marriage that one last chance.

I love you<3

 

 

 

 

 

Next I would like to remember Pastor James, for teaching us those hard truths.

The biblical foundation for our marriage that you taught us

 is so much stronger than the idealistic one we once stood on.

 "A rope of three strands may not easily be broken."

May you forever rest in peace<3

 

 

and last but certainly not least I would like to thank Casey McKay of  Baronet Press. Thank you for reaching out and supporting me as a first time author!

 

 

 

What an exciting day! Thank you to all of my loyal readers who support me also.

I hope you enjoy the book!

 

 

 

It's only a feeling...

feeling: an emotional state or reaction.

 

Once upon a time a few years ago a good friend of mine taught me a very important lesson about feelings that I had forgotten about until just recently.

 

I came across this post https://quietlysurrendering.wordpress.com/2015/05/05/when-it-all-began/ written by Kate over at Quietly Surrendering recently and the lesson came back into memory and hit me like a ton of bricks.

 

Jordan and I had been having a really good streak. He was leading I was following and life was good, like really good, until we had a minor disagreement. It was over something silly but it "hurt my feelings" and instead of just getting over it I held on to the hurt. I distanced myself and Jordan let me. We didn't turn to what DD had taught us to do and that night we found ourselves going to sleep like this...

 

 

Instead of our normal...

 

or



The next day we continued to be cold toward one another. Jordan didn't text me on and off all day like he usually does, he didn't kiss me when he got home from work, that evening we had conversation with the kids but not one another, he didn't touch me in passing or when I climbed into bed that night and he fell asleep without me again.

 

Soon I found myself sobbing in bed like this:

 

 

 With Jordan snoring next to me oblivious to my distress.

 

I laid there with my brain running wild. Thinking that Jordan didn't love me and he must not want DD anymore because we were going to bed angry for the second night in a row and that our marriage couldn't survive if we went back to living this way. I couldn't live feeling unloved all the time or with someone who could turn their love on and off like a light switch. My mind went on and on. The tears continued to fall and I cried myself to sleep feeling like things between Jordan and I were awful.

 

Thankfully the next morning I came across Kate's post which stopped my rapid downhill spiral before I said anything hurtful to Jordan about any of these "feelings" I was having like I sometimes do when things "feel" this way.

 

 

 

The post reminded me that "it's only a feeling, feelings pass". That very important lesson my friend once taught me.

 

 

 

I felt unloved but if I had thought about it rationally I knew Jordan loved me very much. I made a mountain out of something silly. I needed to let it go which I did. I apologized. Jordan came home, he was loving and I felt as if everything was going to be ok again.

 

 

 



 

Have you ever let your feelings run wild?

 

A letter written to husbands...

I happened upon this letter on Pinterest and it really touched me. It also lead me to a new blog I enjoy:)

A Letter To Husbands: If Your Wife Is Lonely

February 27, 2014 by Michelle Lindsey

Dear Husbands,

 

 

I’ve heard from your wife—she needs your attention.

 

She tells me she’s lonely. She feels isolated and ignored. Her life is wrapped around children, work, and/or household chores. She used to feel in love with life, and in love with you, but now she feels worthless and uninteresting. She feels like she’s forgotten how to have fun. Depression and anxiety trap her in a cycle of stress and she can’t seem to snap out of it. How did this happen? Why can’t she become the woman she once was?

 

If you think back, you remember how she was at the beginning of your relationship. She cared about how she looked and tried hard to please you. You miss the girl you first fell for. Well, I can tell you this: she misses her too. She has matured and grown, but she longs for the days when you couldn’t wait to see her. She recalls being carefree and full of life. She can’t tell exactly when everything changed, but she knows she’s not the same. She knows something is missing.

 

The thing is, she has been really busy taking care of everything, for everyone, all the time. She has barely anything left to give. She’s tired. Maybe she has lost hope. Instead of giving up on her, exchanging her, or simply ignoring her, you can bring her back by turning your heart towards her.

 

You pursued her once—you can do it again.

 

You were the one who gave her butterflies. She chose to be with you because you made her happy. She gave you the gift of herself. What have you been doing with this gift? She needs to know that you still choose her. What is your priority these days? Watching sports? Video games? Work? If you place all of these things above your wife, and then wonder why she seems depressed and boring, then you need a wake up call. Don’t give up on her.

 

With God’s help, you have the power to peel back the layers of insecurity that envelope your precious wife. I encourage you to look at her and ask yourself how you can encourage her. Marriage is an ever changing, life-long process. There are ups and downs. There are exciting moments and there are dry emotional deserts that seem to stretch on for miles. But if your wife has lost her zeal, don’t chalk it up as lack of discipline or passion. You might have to force her to take a break and do something fun together. Send her a text in the middle of the day just to tell her you’re thinking of her. Touch her hand while you drive down the road. Bring home her favorite snack. Tell her she’s beautiful. One small gesture can spark tremendous change in her heart and life. She still needs the butterflies, not just grocery lists and carpooling!

 

Scripture tells us that where your treasure is, there your heart will be also (Matthew 6:21). Make your wife a treasure again and watch your heart follow. Don’t be discouraged if she doesn’t respond right away. She might feel so disconnected that it could take some perseverance on your part. Once you capture your wife’s heart again, and she believes you want and love her, you will be amazed at the joy you will feel with that intimate connection. It is true that women who feel loved are prettier! Happy women glow, and their God given, beautiful features become even more beautiful.

 

Take care of the gift that was given to you. She needs you to choose her each day. Watch her respond with love, and see the woman God created emerge before your eyes.

 

With love,
Michelle

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W is for Words of Afirmation

http://www.a-to-zchallenge.com/

 

Have you ever heard of The 5 Love Languages?

 

This is a great book if you have never read it. It explains that we usually try to show love to others the ways we most want to be loved. Discovering your spouses love language enables you to intentionally love them the way they feel most loved.

Jordan's love language is words of affirmation.

 

Words of affirmation: to verbalize your feelings of love, affection and appreciation to your mate. If your mate is the kind who loves compliments, chances are they take criticisms hard as well.

 

 

It is very important that I am careful with what I say to him. Kind words really build him up, but unkind words really knock him down.

 

This

                                                   

 

is a great tool to use when "Thinking before you speak."

 

 

My love language is physical touch.

 

 

 

Jordan is very touchy feely with me. He always touches me in passing wheatear it is smacking my butt, a quick hug, tugging on my hair or just a gentle touch on the shoulder he touches me. At night he spoons me with one hand on my bottom when we go to sleep. In the car he often rests his hand on my leg or holds my hand. While watching TV I often lay my head in his lap. While walking we hold hands.

 

The first thing Jordan does when he is mad at me is, he stops touching me. It doesn't take long for me to figure out that he is upset about something but the lack of touch makes me feel unloved very quickly:/

 



 

Do you know you love language? Do you know your spouses?

 

 

 

If not you can find out here.

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/

 

V is for Voice

 

 

http://www.a-to-zchallenge.com/

:to give utterance or expression to; declare; proclaim: to voice one's discontent.

 

 

Sometimes it is assumed that women in domestic discipline marriages have no voice. At least for me anyways, that is far from the truth.

For me DD means I choose to pick my battles. If there is a decision that needs to be made that I feel strongly about my voice will be heard.

Routinely, Jordan asks and values my opinion on decisions that need to be made.

In our contract I consented to Jordan always having the final say. Sometimes I do not agree with his decisions but I put my trust in him and support his choices.

Most of the time! There have been a few times, a few issues in which I have questioned his decisions and fought him on them big time. There have also been a handful of times in which I have disobeyed his final decision.

I have found through experience, Jordan typically makes the right choices. He is responsible. He thinks things through. He makes choices with his brain not his heart. Sometimes my heart gets in the way.

 

 

But the point of all of this is, I still have a voice. Jordan still values my opinion and ultimately it is my choice whether or not I respect, support and or obey each of  his decisions.

U is for Uncertainty

 

Uncertainty: the state of being uncertain; doubt; hesitancy

 

 

 

I think, for most of us submissives, in TTWD there is an underlying uncertainty. A constant feeling of questioning this whole thing that can easily be brought to the fore front by many things. 

 

Maybe you write a post about breaking a rule and someone comments, "You are an adult. You shouldn't need rules." A thought you've probably struggled with yourself over and over again. But it works for you and your dynamic, right? So if it isn't broke why fix it. Do what works for you. Easier said than done I know. But the fact is we question ourselves.. we are uncertain.

 

 

 

 

 

Maybe you are reading a blog and someone makes a post that says, "We don't do discipline spankings here. Discipline spankings are for naughty children." Does it make you question your DD dynamic? For me it does. One because it feels like a judgment to those who do do punishments and two because of my own uncertainties of why I need this and if I should just suppress my desires and be "normal".

 

 

One of the biggest uncertainties  that plagues me in TTWD is... Does Jordan even want to lead? Does he want a submissive wife? Does it matter to him? and every time  we have a period of inconsistency these uncertainties haunt me. That is why his reassurance and role affirmation are so important to me.

 

I certainly can't expect him to understand me when I don't understand myself though. The poor guys gotta be confused!

 

 

 

 

 

What are your uncertainties in this thing we do?