When Jordan and I got married I customized our entire wedding. I picked out every single reading. When I was searching for wedding vows one of the most important things I was looking for was to make sure it included to love, honor and obey. When I look back to that time I find it odd that including "obey" was so important to me but if I'm honest, truthfully, I knew I wanted a husband who was going to lead and take care of me.
I didn't have that though. Jordan rarely stood up to me prior to DD. I'd push wanting him to stand strong and he would crumble, go with the flow, do what I wanted. I made the decisions. I controlled our money. I made our plans. Until... we had our children. Then he wasn't as willing to compromise. Even though that's what I thought I wanted when he started resisting my decisions it made me angry. I had grown accustomed to running things.
Relinquishing control wasn't easy once we agreed to DD. It took time and many spankings but I would do it all over again. Honestly I wish we had of started our relationship off that way. Our marriage is so much stronger since we've started living it the way God intended us to.
I totally agree with Candace...
If I renewed my wedding vows today, to love, honor and obey would still be an integral part of what I would want to say. Would you vow to OBEY?