For me DD means I choose to pick my battles. If there is a decision that needs to be made that I feel strongly about my voice will be heard.
Routinely, Jordan asks and values my opinion on decisions that need to be made.
In our contract I consented to Jordan always having the final say. Sometimes I do not agree with his decisions but I put my trust in him and support his choices.
Most of the time! There have been a few times, a few issues in which I have questioned his decisions and fought him on them big time. There have also been a handful of times in which I have disobeyed his final decision.
I have found through experience, Jordan typically makes the right choices. He is responsible. He thinks things through. He makes choices with his brain not his heart. Sometimes my heart gets in the way.
But the point of all of this is, I still have a voice. Jordan still values my opinion and ultimately it is my choice whether or not I respect, support and or obey each of his decisions.